State of me
I have had a lot of questions lately about my general well-being and I don’t really understand. I think I might be giving off troubled vibes of some type but I’m not really sure that those are exactly. I have been a little more intense about work but only due to the busyness factor as I experience a one legged man in an ass kicking contest syndrome. Personal life is as rich as I want it to be as I am currently turning down more things than I participate in but that is probably due to the fact that I really like hanging out with ME.
Dating is on pause for a number of reasons the biggest of which is most people on these apps are lying in some way. This drives me nuts because I come from the perspective of under-promise and over-deliver. (all hail the hyphen King! two in one sentence and a third right out of the gate) My pictures are recent and not from particularly flattering angles. My extra chin shows up when I meet you in person along with his friends belly and lack of hair so I don’t see the need to represent anything else. My age is clearly stated whenever I sign up for a new round of humiliation and I definitely have some road miles so again no need for any picture shenanigans.
That last thought is aimed directly at the folks who use so may filters and effects that they no longer look human. I would love to post a few here but that feels off somehow. I just hate it when I can't see a clear face. It’s downright disappointing when you finally see one of those in the wild. I might have mentioned before that I have had more than one meet up say hello to me by name only to have me not recognize them at all. (both turned out to be pictures from at least 10 years ago... at least 10 years)
Also on the lying thing and in no particular order: Political convictions. I am dead center and have little tolerance for people who can't shut up one way or another. If politics are your thing, awesome, not my cup of tea. The same goes for anyone so used to arguing that they pick a fight whilst we are trying to get to know each other. I love a good argument but we are probably not going to be good friends once the dust settles. Its in my makeup, once fired upon I respond inappropriately.
Kids. If you have them then talk about 'em. I love my kids and if someone wants to know I'll gush on them all day. Usually if someone keeps something hidden it means trouble. I don't want to battle your 30 year old basement dweller for your attention. And finally, Time. I am looking for someone fun to hang out with when it works with both of our schedules. If your profile says you are looking for something "casual" or "nothing serious" then that's how I take it. I am really kind of enjoying this living alone thing so marriage talk, no matter how hypothetical, is off-putting (big hyphen guy. that's 4 if you're keeping score). I am in search of a friend that could turn in to something more. I'm too old and cranky for hidden agendas of any kind.
Anyway, I am doing just fine. Nope, not where I saw myself at this point in my life but not many people live out their complete dream lives uninterrupted. Life is a pisser but its better than the alternative.