series setup
random thought warning
I’ve got an idea for a written series that I could have really used a couple years ago. Right now its an idea at the edge of my thinking but I want to get it down on virtual paper so it doesn’t go away.
When my marriage of 31 years broke up my world was very confusing. The only think I knew was that I couldn’t stay in Illinois. Too painful, too many memories. At the time my job was completely remote so I could have gone anywhere in the continental United States and all those choices added to the noise that was my life back then.
So I was here in Minnesota where my company is headquartered and it was time to tell them that my life was changing. I would be moving but if there was more I could contribute I might consider this as my new home. The powers that be said move here and we will figure it out, so I did. Just over two years later I have some things about the move that I wish I would have known.
This idea started as I caught myself talking to a set of sheets. I have two full sets so I can clean my house and make my bed to return from every trip to clean. I love coming back, showering off the grime from the road, and climbing in my own, clean, bed. Clean sheets are hard to beat. Anyway, my favorite sheet set has tags on the fitted sheet that say TOP BOTTOM along the corresponding lengths. EVERY TIME I read that while making the bed I say out loud “how hard was that?” meaning that every fitted sheet should come with directional tags.
This made me realize that those are definitely my favorites and the other set is annoying. (yes, my cheap ass should just buy another set of the ones I love but I’m not made of money) This brought me to just how many disappointing purchases I made in that first year on my own. Most of which have been sold or given away but all could have been avoided with a reliable place for some advice. Right now that aint here but maybe I could write an article on the subject somewhere that people might actually read it…
I will most likely work out the details on these pages. But before I go I want to finish with a list of the dumb shit I bought that I wouldn’t get again:
Internet couch. Looked really cool, uncomfortable. SOLD
Mattress. Big Black Friday Deal, expensive and just okay. FAILED already and sleeping on a replacement.
Recliner. Another big deal that ended up being for regular sized humans. GIVEN AWAY to a fun sized friend
Bean Bag that unfolds into a queen bed of chopped foam. UNCOMFORTABLE any way you scrunched it. Given away to a coworker with kids.
Those are the big ones off the top of my head but each one has a longer story attached. I really need to think about this one. Maybe some type of guide written by an idiot who screwed some things up…
I have often been asked why I took very little from my marriage and the simple answer was I couldn’t. I needed to start fresh. Anything I took would have conjured up the life I left. Moving away was me needing to not have physical reminders of a deep loss. I can honestly say that buying all new things was the best way for me to begin the healing process. Holy Hell I’m starting to sound like one of those people. I need to stop writing this before I begin handing out unsolicited advice.